a Father

When I first heard about Love and Logic, I was skeptical to say the least. I had some friends who were in one of Chris's Love and Logic classes and were encouraging my wife and I to attend. I felt that I didn't need some guy with a degree preaching to me about how to be a "good" parent.  I was offended that my friends would even suggest it, like they felt I could do better than what I was doing. I had spent most of my adult life in the military, and had a mindset that went along with that lifestyle. Subordinates should do what they are told, when they are told. Children were no exception. As a combat veteran, I also had issues with anger. I did not go to any of the classes, but had a chance to listen to Chris give an introduction to Love and Logic at a school function about a year later. The methods he talked about seemed like they might work, but only for someone else, and not for me. I considered attending one of the local series of classes he was hosting, but for some reason I didn't. I did realize that I was not being the father my children deserved. I did a lot of yelling and was angry over small things. The next time the opportunity arose to take the session of classes, I went to the first one, still skeptical. I won't go into the content of the classes, because I would not do it justice. However, I can say the skills and information I acquired have given my wife and I an opportunity to raise our children to be the best people they can be. Our family still does some yelling, but now instead of in anger, it is usually in excitement at a game we are playing or while running around in the back yard. Our children are learning problem solving skills and have become better behaved in school. The all around change that has taken place in my family is nothing short of amazing. If someone is hesitant to commit to this for his or her self, then I would encourage him or her to commit for the family.