I saw my 6-year old puff up with proudness when I said to her, "Sweetie, I noticed this morning started out a little rough. I saw tears and frustration. But, I saw that you made lots of wise decisions as the morning went on and got yourself out of that mood. I know a lot of young kids that might still be frustrated, but you aren't. I bet you feel proud." Then she gave me a huge hug and kept dancing. Language shapes reality!