Parenting and Teaching Success Stories
The Love & Logic Way®
When I first heard about Love and Logic, I was skeptical to say the least. I had some friends who were in one of Chris’s Love and Logic classes and were encouraging my wife and I to attend. I felt that I didn’t need some guy with a degree preaching to me about how to be a “good” parent. I was offended that my friends would even suggest it, like they felt I could do better than what I was doing.
I had spent most of my adult life in the military, and had a mindset that went along with that lifestyle. Subordinates should do what they are told, when they are told. Children were no exception. As a combat veteran, I also had issues with anger.
I did not go to any of the classes, but had a chance to listen to Chris give an introduction to Love and Logic at a school function about a year later. The methods he talked about seemed like they might work, but only for someone else, and not for me.
I considered attending one of the local series of classes he was hosting, but for some reason I didn’t. I did realize that I was not being the father my children deserved. I did a lot of yelling and was angry over small things. The next time the opportunity arose to take the session of classes, I went to the first one, still skeptical.
I won’t go into the content of the classes, because I would not do it justice. However, I can say the skills and information I acquired have given my wife and I an opportunity to raise our children to be the best people they can be. Our family still does some yelling, but now instead of in anger, it is usually in excitement at a game we are playing or while running around in the back yard.
Our children are learning problem solving skills and have become better behaved in school. The all around change that has taken place in my family is nothing short of amazing. If someone is hesitant to commit to this for his or her self, then I would encourage him or her to commit for the family.
I have three girls. I love them dearly but things had been out of control at our house and we didn’t realize just how much our parenting had to do with it. When I met Chris and he suggested I take his course, I was skeptical. Boy was I wrong!
I grew up during a time when parents made the choices and kids just did what they were told to do. Love and Logic made me realize that being a parent is not an excuse to boss kids around, get frustrated when they won’t do what I want, and end up with complete chaos. It taught me that my job as a parent is to teach my kids to be respectful and help them learn how to handle many different situations by themselves. Believe it or not, giving them choices helps them accomplish this.
My kids now take pride in the choices they make and are beginning to learn from the not-so-good decisions they have made. Its a work in progress but I am so happy and thankful that I am learning to parent the Love and Logic way. Just a quick quote from my almost 6-year-old one night recently when I was putting her to bed……”Mom, THIS is what a Family is supposed to be like.”
Thanks for keeping the info coming Chris. While we all help our children learn to make choices now in hopes of them making good decisions when we’re no longer with them, I wanted to share the following thanks with you.
The reality is that I will not live to see my children in their self-supporting years, though I still hope and pray for a treatment/cure to be found. The comfort that I have in knowing that my husband has these skills to use to continue to guide our boys whenever the day comes I’m no longer here with them is beyond measure.
Thank you for your role in bringing the Love & Logic techniques/info to us. We have a long way to go and need to be consistent, but find what we do use very helpful.
I saw my 6-year old puff up with proudness when I said to her, “Sweetie, I noticed this morning started out a little rough. I saw tears and frustration. But, I saw that you made lots of wise decisions as the morning went on and got yourself out of that mood. I know a lot of young kids that might still be frustrated, but you aren’t. I bet you feel proud.” Then she gave me a huge hug and kept dancing. Language shapes reality!